Today I talk about the time I was told to quit trying to living my dream, right to my face! It was a difficult time in my life, and felt like I was being kicked while trying to get up on my feet. It turns out that at the time I was getting mad and upset and just needed to spin the situation into a different light to give me the confidence to power through the negativity.

Check out the YouTube video above or listen to the podcast on iTunes.

I hope you are all enjoying these mini episodes that I am publishing to YouTube. Please let me know what you think in the comments or shoot me an email. 🙂

Shoot me your questions to [email protected]

Episode 255

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welcome everybody to the dreamers

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podcast I'm your host Joe Pardo this is

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my co-host Ava grace and she seems

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quite happy this morning I gotta say

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after having her nap and her and and her

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walk that we went on today's topic I

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want to talk about the a time that I got

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told to my eyes eyeballs the eyeballs to

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quit when I was going or about to do

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when faced with starting the dreamers

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podcast and getting started

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it's something that it's you know it has

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weight on my mind but it obviously i'm

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sitting here holding my lovely daughter

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ava grace and i wouldn't be able to do

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that if I just gave up and quit like

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someone told me to do right to my face

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you know it really waiting on my mind

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for quite awhile there when it happened

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it happened like right after I was just

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getting started

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I'm so like a little over two years ago

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and it was like it was kind of took me

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back a little bit so I'm like hey you

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know I'm i know what i'm doing i have

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this uh all this experience and in

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business and I understand where i'm

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coming from as far as like what I'm

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leaving and when i'm giving up because

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I've I gave it three years of thinking

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before I decided to give all that life

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up to do my own thing and here i am

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two-and-a-half years later doing it so

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you know when have you got to remember

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sometimes people really love you I and

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they want the best for you and they

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think they know what the best is for you

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even though they don't really know the

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situation or what they're what they're

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talking about because maybe they don't

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even have an experience that that gets

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them there or maybe they're just jealous

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because they gave up on their own dreams

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and you know they're dirges quitters or

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in some cases haters but but a lot of

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cases it's because people you know they

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they want to show their their love and

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compassion for you and they don't want

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to see struggle or whatever it is but

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you know what

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it's it's tough to hear it

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uh and and I didn't want to hear it was

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not obviously they want to hear because

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i'm here today to talk you know I

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survived all that so I you know that's

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why one of the reasons why I go really

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hard at the idea that i want you to take

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that step back and realize what it is

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that you want to do with your life and

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and do the research before you start

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making all these ideas like oh well this

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is gonna work and that's going to work

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you know really a way your your your

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strength of what you're great at and

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what you could be better at or what you

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can get someone else to help you do on

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that journey and and then go for it you

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know do that continue to do the research

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continue to learn continue that not just

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have the experiences and do it but the

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learn from those experiences and get

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better at the things that you want to do

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like Avis trying so hard to want to talk

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to this microphone that she's like she's

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reaching out for it but I'm not going to

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tell her to stop but I'm gonna keep

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pulling her back a little bit because I

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gotta finish this this video

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speaking of video we're on YouTube right

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so and I'd love to start reading some of

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those some of those reviews here on this

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on this Friday edition of the dreamers

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start doing more episodes like this

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whether they're just short or not so if

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you're enjoying that

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you're enjoying these short short

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pint-sized episodes because I would

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really really like to start doing a lot

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more of these I have tons of topics to

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go over and I'm just to reiterate you

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know when someone tells you to quit the

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probably doing it from their heart by

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the thing is is if you know and you

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spend that time to really dig deep

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inside yourself and look at what you're

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good at and figure out what it is that

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you love and the passion that you have

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and the and you're willing to do the

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google search you're willing to buy the

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books that you need to study to learn

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more and you're willing to put the hours

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in the learner are you willing to learn

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Ava I it looks like you're ready to

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learn it looks like you're ready to

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learn little girly

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yes it looks like she's ready to learn

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you should be ready to learn go out and

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do that google search to figure out what

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it is exactly that makes you want to get

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up in the morning and do more of it and

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i'll catch you all next week on the

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Friday episode of course i'll have a

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great interview this upcoming weekend

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not sure not sure who is going to be

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actually let me let me just click

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because it's this is how we do now

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probably be Stephen Marley who is he was

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on the show long time ago you should go

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check out his butt episode i don't

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recall the episode number that he was on

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but we talked a lot about life life

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hacking and stuff like that so yeah give

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it a listen look forward to seeing

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everybody next week have a great weekend

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right Ava hey hey hey you have a great

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weekend Ava

On this week’s mini episode I talk about how to deal with negative feedback. It may seem obvious, but not everyone out there is a “hater”. You have to remember that other people have different perspectives than you do, and may be more critical about certain things than others. Check out the YouTube video above or listen to the podcast on iTunes.

I hope you are all enjoying these mini episodes that I am publishing to YouTube. Please let me know what you think in the comments or shoot me an email. 🙂

Shoot me your questions to [email protected]

Episode 251

Transcription

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welcome everybody to the dreamers
podcast I’m the host Joe part oh this is

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my co-host David grace right here
snapping away at her lips because she’s

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teething so this week on the dreamers
podcast i want to talk about listening

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to criticism and and actually talk about
an experience that I just had that

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actually turned out to be a really
positive experience might actually have

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some notes right here on this notebook
right over there because I wasn’t afraid

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to take on some negative criticism about
my conference that I just held here in

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South Jersey its mid-atlantic
podcast.com go check it out we just

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holding the virtual ticket for a hundred
bucks you can watch every session and

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you get the audio and all that but
anyway that’s not the point the point is

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is at there was somebody who had a less
than favorable opinion of some of the

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things that we did at the conference and
you know what a lot of times people

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don’t want to listen to

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I to any kind of criticism they you know
I were so many people saying oh my god I

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love this is amazing

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we had such a great time at your
conference I can’t wait to come back

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next year i already bought tickets for
next year

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let’s do this it’s gonna be awesome and
all of that but sometimes people that

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that didn’t get everything and what we
need to understand we’re working uh you

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know serving other people or offering a
product or something like that what we

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need to do is we need to be able to
listen to the people who have something

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to say and if you’re fortunate enough
for them to actually want to come and

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say something to you about it and you
know whether it’s in person or or at

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least in an email or survey or something
like that

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there’s so much that you can learn right
so you won’t learn anything if you just

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take all the great the great stuff with
yall wonderful like here let me just Pat

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myself on the back a little pat you on
the back to the Burt no I guess not

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ok so I and I had ended up having this
really awesome conversation learning so

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many things from a perspective that was
radically different than every other

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person

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I had talked to about the conference so
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emphasize that if you are willing to
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reach out to people that give you that
feedback you can learn and when you

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learn

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everybody wins and that’s really all I
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when I put my arm survey out i was
asking for people to leave their names

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so that i could contact them so i can
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that next year could be better Ava for
you because you’ll be running around

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next year at the conference bugging
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things well maybe what we’ll see maybe
maybe only be there for lunch time or

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something running around

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yeah just lunchtime well she’s already
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ok so I this yeah listen to to your
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listen to the people that are willing to
give you negative feedback because you

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know a lot of times we want our egos to
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the way arm

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we don’t want that to happen and it
doesn’t have to happen that way and I

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got notification is going off and
they’re coming through on the mic so

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good job Joe I i guess i’ll see you all
next week here on the dreamers podcast

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by the way we just passed 200 episodes

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hooray anaya was on number 252 go check
it out if you haven’t I was really great

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episode and i did a pre-show with matt
where we talked about the awesomeness of

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getting to 250 episodes with this
amazing platform

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thanks for watching that you can
subscribe below link or comment below if

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you have a personal experience i’d love
to hear about it about getting some

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negative feedback to you got from
something that you did or product you

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put out and turning that into a positive
note with not only the customer but with

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yourself and with your product or
service going forward

I have a challenge for you:

Take back YOUR TIME.

Start using your phone’s Do Not Disturb feature during family time. Set it so that you don’t receive any texts or alerts. The difference between Do Not Disturb and Silent is that you can have it setup to allow phone calls to come through.

In my mind, if someone is calling me it is probably important. This seems to ring true as time marches forward and people call less and less, but text more and more. Calls are for emergencies in my opinion so I want to receive those right away.

Alerts are just distracting you away from what matters. YOUR TIME.

Here is how to use it on your phone.

I want you to take a good hard look at yourself in a mirror. How well do you know yourself, the person looking back at you in the mirror?

• What is that person’s strengths and weaknesses?
• What does that person like and dislike?
• What does that person find entertaining?
• What does that person enjoy doing with their spare time?
• What does that person do for a living?
• Does that person love their job?
• Does that person have a family or even want to have a family?
• Does that person get along with others?
• Is that person happy?

These questions and so many more need to be asked in order for you to be able to answer the question: “Do you Know Yourself?” It starts out as a simple question that unfolds into a lifetime of understanding… OWN YOUR BIOGRAPHY.

• In order to best understand others we need to understand ourselves first.
• In order to love others we must love ourselves first.
• In order to plot our future we must know our past.

We may not always like the person that is looking back at us in the mirror. We have the power to change that, starting with today. My motto for a very long-time has been “society starts with you” and in order to change society we must change our mindset first.

I challenge you to do this today, tomorrow and the day after until you have answered all of the questions truthfully. Become comfortable with yourself, in your own skin and own it all. We must love ourselves to the fullest because NO ONE will love us as much as we can love ourselves.

Back Story

I never used to think much about my Twitter following strategy. That was until I found out about Twitter bombing [find out what Twitter Bombing is here].

Six months into building my podcast’s Twitter account [@DreamersPodcast], I no longer wanted to look at my feed. I found it very frustrating and stopped seeing value in it. The problem I had created was following and following back too many people who aren’t interacting.

I spent most of my time scrolling through my feed to find people I actually wanted to connect with. Most of what I was scrolling past was a constant stream of picture-less, “gotcha” titles, nameless, faceless and short URL (ie bit.ly) tweets to articles I was never going to read and were being tweeted out every five minutes or less.

Wake Up Call

After my Twitter Bombing article is when I decided to start taking action. Now let me say, these aren’t nameless and faceless Twitter bots. These accounts are linked to people that have huge followings on Twitter, 10k to well over 100k. Apparently, something works for them but all I see is generic text tweets every five minutes with little to no interaction with followers.

That is when I stopped treating Twitter like Facebook and started unfollowing anyone who tweeted too much or had little interaction with other accounts. Interaction is the key to Twitter and I can’t believe I fell into a follow back trap. Many times these accounts will unfollow me within a day or two.

After unfollowing over 100 accounts by hand, I decided to do a Google search for a way to make this process easier and quicker. I wish I had done it sooner because I came across http://UnFollowers.com, which made the process infinitely more efficient. It allows you to quickly see who follows you, who follows you back, how many “fans” you have, which accounts haven’t tweeted in a scalable time frame, and who recently unfollowed you. The best part is you can unfollow up to 100 people per day for free! I was able to cut down my “following” from around 700 to 500 with ease!

When I Follow/Follow Back

            Now I do not propose to know everything about Twitter, but I do know a lot about interacting with people. If you follow thousands and have thousands of followers (follow backs) and you follow me I probably I will not follow you back. Especially if I don’t know who you are because, most likely, in a few days I will see you on my unfollow list. If your account is a generic tweet several times an hour, I am probably not following you regardless if I know you. The exception to both of these rules is if I see enough social interaction with followers. I want to see that there are conversations that I can jump into and contribute to.

My Current Tweeting Habit

            I have my blog tweet out old posts once per hour. While my podcast tweets out once every four hours. I don’t feel this is overkill, personally. It seems to have done well for me without coming off as spammy to people who follow me. I also, try to jump on Twitter at least once a day to interact with actual people. Keeping my ratio of posts to interactions is not a science, but I feel it is important for people to become fans and eventually friends with the human Joe Pardo and not a bot that does zero interaction.

I really want to hear what your Twitter strategies and philosophies are! So please leave a comment below so we can have a discussion about it. 🙂

My grandfather made his millions and more importantly, a legacy that lived on beyond his death, with:

Passion.

Endless drive.

Listening [to his customers].

Never forgetting where he came from.

“Just keep stroking.”

P.S. There is good info out there, but go forward with both eyes open. You, alone, live with your success and your failures.

I am not there yet, but I am on the journey!