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Dealing with his parents’ divorce at the age of 14, it turned his world upside down. Finding out that his Dad wasn’t the person he thought he was through growing up. This turned into misplaced angers against the wrong people in his life, including his mom. As if this wasn’t enough of a problem for him, he and his brother were involved in a bad car accident that severely affected his life. Danny had to learn how to walk and talk again in high school. It also nearly sidelined his high school football and basketball careers.

It wouldn’t be until years later, that he would be able to shed the people in his life that held him back, and meet the people that would help speed up his personal and attitude growth. Danny is a personal friend of mine who I have helped navigate his transformation.

I hope everyone and their families had a great and safe 4th of July weekend!

Episode 22

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this is the dreamers podcast where
dreamers share their stories to inspire

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you

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now join host Joe Pardo as he interviews
a dreamer who’s living their dreams

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yeah

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yeah

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welcome to the dreamers podcast I’m your
host Joe Pardo and today I’m

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interviewing Danny Murphy who is living
his dream of making something out of

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nothing

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welcome to show Danny thank you for
having me thank you so much for coming

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on I i’m really excited for you to share
your story today at been a part of your

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story so it’s it’s extra special for me

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let’s begin by giving some background
about yourself Danny 25 years old I was

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born and raised in Pennsauken New Jersey
high school graduate a pencil in high

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school two national titles 2007 and soak
in high school football team and

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basketball team my workout part of truck
service parts warehouse

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I’ve been there for about four years and
that’s pretty much it

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so what would you say inspires you see
people have things you know the guide

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like to have it makes me a note of each
me to want to have those things and work

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hard and take care of the people that
surround me and look out for the people

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that looked out for me helped me through
my horror times and was there for me to

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celebrate my good times

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so how all this come about oh I was
younger my parents split up when I was

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kinda confused on where I wanted to go
in life i was kinda on the wrong path

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for a little while i was doing kind of
stupid petty things that’s a kid growing

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more get into trouble and when I was
about 18 19 years old I kind of realized

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that on that’s not the way to go

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no I just try to set a good example for
my family members that are younger than

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me and my friends that I grew up with
that you can do things differently and

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still have the same i can see success
that you had when you were doing the

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wrong things you can do it in a good
weigh-in do positive things with the

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people around you and that’s what I try
to do I just try to keep a positive what

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kind of struggles did you have with your
parents splitting up

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my mom and father split up

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there’s a lot of anger there like a lot
of anger and I took it out a lot on her

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cause like I really know how to handle
that type of situation

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I mean 14 years old you know the person
that I thought my father was was that

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the person is the person that he is is
nothing what I thought it was had a lot

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of anger and I struggled to deal with
that for 45 years

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it was very hard to warm figure out how
to channel that emotion to a certain

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extent that hatred sports is what it was
for me i just put all the effort I had

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in sports and try to make the best of
what I could with that

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so what is you try changing your life to
make it better for yourself when I

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played basketball in high school I
really I was really good and I really

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thought that I could on probably make it
to the NBA I was probably one of those

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kids oughta lock and don’t gotta jump
shot i got a crossover i’m going to go

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to the NBA and that didn’t happen

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no I was kind of disappointed at that
too because I made some mistakes in

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school and

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I have to go to an alternative high
school and you know I remember our home

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games you should be played at burlington
county college and my coach I was in my

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senior year and my coach said it’s
college crap you should really look at

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this kid and the scott told my coach you
don’t got time for kids i went to an

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alternative school so that was some
difficult for me like just knowing that

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that was my last year in school and that
was the game before last games that i

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was always in the back of my head and
then I got to about 19 and I’m you know

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I i just wanted to change in the people
that I was around and constantly hanging

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winning doing arm not the best things to
be doing i just wanted to change i

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wanted to be a better person

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my grandfather was sick at the time and
I wanted to make them proud I wanted to

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make my mom proud and show them that
even though I didn’t start off the best

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way that i’ll do my best to finish and
be the best man that I can be so how was

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that received by your family there we
were happy that I was finally ready to

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put that stuff past me and build on the
new person i want to say I’m a

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completely different person

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I mean a lot of me half of me is the old
me as far as seeing things from people’s

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point of views i mean i understand
people’s views and stuff and there’s

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about half of me that’s a completely new
person as far as the maturity level on

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my professionalism

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I’ve learned a lot of stuff that on i
really think that I would on learn

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overall the family was happy and proud
of me to do my mom’s very proud of me

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i’ve made accomplishments do my job and
on i just hope I’m making them proud and

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I think for the most part they are so
what steps did you take to get started

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with making these changes in your life

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first thing is people a year around

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I was younger when I was having problems
channel and my emotions are taking down

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on the people that were the last ones to
deserve it

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I’m staking it out on my mom and my
mom’s been there for me through

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everything everything I ever went 2-2
she was right there with me to old-time

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she didn’t deserve that I had to admit
that i had an anger problem and it was

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gonna take time to one work on that I’m
still working on some of those seen

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things today I had to cut off some mom
people that i was around people that I

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thought were friends that weren’t
friends people that weren’t the people

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that I wanted to be around

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I had to figure out who who loved me for
me

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we call it the falls and everybody
everything else that goes with it

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I had to realize that just because one
thing doesn’t work out there’s always

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another step

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so that’s on important that one thing
doesn’t go your way there’s no need to

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get on man and upset you can do
something else

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make your own path we call this a how do
you do it

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leave your own legacy so we’re there any
roblox that you hit when trying to do

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all this

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absolutely you know when you’re trying
to change who you are in the beginning

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it’s very difficult because it use you
could still be in some of them same

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situations where on

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you know when I was eighteen sixteen
seventeen eighteen years old that there

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was a confrontation my way to handle it
would be alright let’s fight

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now i see that’s not the way to go i
mean you were talking things out that’s

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how relationships are lost most open
most of the time mix understandings and

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things like that you need to be willing
to warm talk things out sometimes

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fighting is not always the right answer
on another broke block was maturity I

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had to mature a lot as a man and i had
to accept the hardest thing was probably

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accepting me for me I mean it was hard
for me to accept the person that I was

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with my Falls and some of them are very
hard to change and like i said earlier

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i’m still working on them i think i make
good progress on most of them you know a

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few of them i still need to work on and
hopefully I can get there

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how did you go about overcoming some of
these I’ve had good influences in my

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life my mother my grand and people like
you people like Eric you know you know

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some people that have been on
instrumental in my life and help me make

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the right decisions and grooming me in
trying to show me the way and it’s been

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very helpful to me and really want i
started to see to things that that you

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were trying to teach me and people were
trying to teach you once i really

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started taking that seriously is when I
started to see to change you know that I

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didn’t have to be person that i was i
could be the same person just a better

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more mature person

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well thank you danny thank you so I mean
there was something else that happened

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along the way you were in a car accident

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yeah that was difficult to learn to walk
again talk again doctor told me I was

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going to be able to play basketball I
said doc I’m gonna do whatever I have to

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do I want to be out there that first
game that bears game

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and he said starting at point guard
number five

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Danny Murphy I was on that floor that
was a very difficult time that I mean

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and my brother was involved in a car
accident as well you know I had to be

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strong for him and as his older brother
trying to show him you know if I can

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make it to it so can you my own my hair
your condition was a little worse than

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his had a couple of broken ribs and a
broken shoulder and i just wanted to

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show him that you can get through
anything and I didn’t I told the doctor

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i play at that game and I did squid 32
points never forget there’s a lot of

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roadblocks that I went through though I
mean when your parents split up you know

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at 14 years old you’re like well you
know how can I really deal with this and

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I just had to warm you know stick with
it learned lived and try to be the best

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person and I can be the car accident was
another that was on I wants a setback

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because it’s never about to set back
it’s all about to get back

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losing people along the way people that
you love and care about that you know

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I’ve lost friends family has been a lot
of struggles to go through and I think

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for the most part i’ve gotten through
more I’ve been strong for myself my

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family members my friends and no I hope
that they’re appreciative of that and

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there are proud to say that i was there
for him when I when I was so there’s any

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parts of your dreams so far that haven’t
quite worked out the way you planned it

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man food may wear this is hard work and
dedication pale

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I hope that’s true because i work hard
i’m dedicated to warm everything I do

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and I would say there’s anything that
hasn’t worked out but there are some

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things that I’m hoping that will
eventually work out so i would say

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everything’s okay for now and

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some things are still left unfinished so
I really couldn’t say that there’s

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nothing that hasn’t worked out yet so
Danny if you were stranded on a deserted

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island with your family what three
things would you want to have with you

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first and foremost I need me some music
a basketball court and i would have to

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bring my sneakers not okay everybody was
saying you’re not i love my Jordans

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shout out to Michael jewelry

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what are your dreams for the future look
like i’m going to be playing in a

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basketball summer league this summer I’m
gonna be on a part of a summer league

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i’m also going to be a volunteer at the
basketball can’t and you know maybe i

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can turn that into this something you
know to love the game for me is there

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still

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I love the competition that would truly
be a dream at 25 years old maybe too

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long get an opportunity to play
basketball on a more regular basis

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instead of just when I’m done working on
the weekends that would be on truly a

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dream come true because basketball is my
first love for the professional side i

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don’t know you know maybe I cannot be in
a better position maybe next year town

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you who knows to be honest Joe I really
don’t try to home say I want to do this

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at that body is time I just kinda take
every day day by day day by day

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so is there any last thoughts you’d like
to share like to thank the people that

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took the time to listen to this

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I’d like to thank you for having me like
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that have been on here i think that’s a
cool thing the future people that you

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have on here i think i think the dreams
podcast will you success I think it’s

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something that people shouldn’t breathe
people and dreams our own could be a

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very very sensitive thing it takes a lot
of or be able to talk to people that

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they don’t real with known express
themselves until people allowed to

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people are afraid to admit what their
real dreams are there just contain with

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where they’re at

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some people are too afraid to admit that
you know I’d rather be on

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playing basketball vs. working in a
warehouse some people would think you

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know maybe I’m too old

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maybe i can do that no more but it’s
important that i think people try to one

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arm get this type of stuff out that your
dreams are real long thing and if you’re

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able to accomplish them you know you
don’t ever have to feel like you can’t

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do what something you could do if you’re
focused you can do it well then I really

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appreciate that

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that’s it’s very hard heart pink eye is
tearing up just listening to you talk in

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all honesty so is there any any website
or Facebook sore Twitter’s that you’d

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like the log now friend request me on
Facebook danny murphy i have an

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Instagram the underscore Murphy 389 I
don’t do Twitter or anything else like

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that

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well thank you so much for coming on and
sharing your story i really really

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deeply appreciate it and I i hope that
it inspires some people out there to

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make changes in their life and i would
love to have you come on again you know

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six months a year and follow-up where
you’re at your dad too happy something I

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love to do i’d like to thank you for
having me and the people out there

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chasing their dreams keep chasing them
and don’t be afraid to be who you are

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and

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sometimes it takes a little time to
realize who you actually are but when

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you know what you know it trust me

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and thank you for having me and i’ll be
back in six months and not be back in a

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year

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how’s that sounds great thank you you
will thank you for joining us for this

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if you or someone you know would like to
be a guest on the dreamers podcast

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please send an email to j @j par . co
this podcast is copyright 2014 by j parr

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